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One of the downsides to being an achiever is the constant need to please people around you. In a professional environment, you go through great lengths to make sure everyone in your team is happy. At home you try to appease your parents at every turn. And you’ll force yourself to go to social occasions, even if you are tired, just to make sure you don’t let someone down.<\/p>\n

This does make you reliable and dependable. People know they can always count on you.<\/p>\n

The problem is that this is at a massive cost to your own well being.<\/p>\n

At every one of these events you are placing the needs of others above your own.<\/p>\n

Constantly trying to please others.<\/p>\n

At the detriment to yourself.<\/p>\n

The obvious solution is to prioritize yourself. Turn people away when you need to. Protect your own interests first. But this is difficult for someone who is used to basing their personality on positive feedback from others.<\/p>\n

It’s tough, but we need to protect ourselves by saying no.<\/p>\n

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Image was from one of my happiest varsity memories, a trip with Lauren, Jess and Caito to Babylonstoren<\/em><\/p>\n

Blog: <\/strong>185\/365<\/p>\n

Song of the day: <\/strong>Want you back – HAIM<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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