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“You can’t help everyone Rowan”<\/p>\n

I was chatting to my flatmate this evening when he said this to me. I’d been telling him about how I client was making a really poor decision. One that would cost them. But they weren’t going to change their minds and I found it immensely frustrating.<\/p>\n

Objectively, I know it’s true. I can’t help everyone. But I still have a tendency to worry about things that I can’t change.<\/p>\n

I try and help people as much as I can. And get annoyed when I’m not able to. And this annoyance can even manifest itself as guilt.<\/p>\n

Out of control<\/strong><\/h3>\n

I know that this is because I think that I have much more power than I have in reality. I believe that I am responsible for so much more than just myself<\/p>\n

But there is so much that is out of my control.<\/p>\n

And as much as it’s good to help people, we can’t help everyone. Try your best, but don’t let it impact you when you’re unable to help<\/p>\n

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Image is of the magnificent storm we had in Cape Town today.<\/em><\/p>\n

Song of the day<\/strong>: Embody - Lost and Found<\/a><\/pre>\n
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